Tuesday 29 December 2009

New cycle

Aunt Flo has arrived. I finally started getting spotting during the evening of Christmas Day, which I shall regard as the start of my period, by the 26th my period had fully arrived. Which gave me a cycle length of 38 days (sigh) compared to 33 the previous time. So, it appears I am not regular. I am not against charting per se, I just find it a chore, plus it's difficult for me to remember, and also, Robert liking to wake so early means the temp taking first thing before getting up is very difficult to get right even if I do remember!

This cycle Jonathan and I will be at it even more so like bunnies than last month (double sigh, it takes a lot out of me even though I enjoy it!!) and unlike last cycle we won't stop until I am sure my period is here, or until I test positive. Last cycle we stopped basically around the time I got sick, although we then had sex again about a week later. If that doesn't work.... then I might think about getting some ovulation sticks.

I actually got quite upset over aunt flo's arrival this month. I felt like we had tried so hard that it was owed to us, plus we have been trying since August, although I have only had 2 cycles, I figured that since we got pregnant with Robert straight away it'd be the same again.

I know I should count my blessings and even if we never have another child, we have one healthy, happy, gorgeous son, who despite his difficult start to life "on the outside" has developed well, and shows amazing new insight to his world every day. It is a pleasure being with him, learning about who he is, laughing at his silly antics (yesterday, he span around so much on the spot that when he finally tried to walk he staggered about so comically, and then got up and did the same again!!) and just being his mummy. I am SO proud that I am Robert's mummy. So proud that this lovely little boy is all mine, that I made him, carried him, birthed him and am raising him.

I love him to bits and I simply cannot put into words the extent of my love for him. I do not know how, when he gets a brother or sister (he WILL get a brother or sister, eventually!), how they will be loved as much as he is loved. But I'm sure they will be!

Robert had a lovely Christmas, 4 days of opening presents, visiting his grandparents, plus he got to see his Aunty Helen again who he hasn't seen very often really. He loves opening all the presents now and happily rips a small piece of paper off a parcel, then very carefully places it on the ground, before being urged to pull another bit. And makes very appreciative "oooh" sounds when he sees what's inside! (I wonder how long it will be before we get the sighs and the grumpy "That's not what I wanted!!!!" yells!) His favourite presents from Christmas I think has been his big teddy from Great-Nanna, his trolley from Aunty Nicky, Uncle Stephen and Ewan, and his Magna-Doodle from Mummy and Daddy.

We hope you all had lovely christmasses, and that you have a good new year celebration if you have one! I don't know that we will be, I guess we'll see!

Monday 21 December 2009

Late, but not pregnant.

I am late for my period. Assuming of course that I am regular, which I suppose I am not. I did a test this morning. It was negative. Jonathan and I had sex every other day from about 2 days after my period ended, up until a week or so after I should have ovulated based on the 14 days before period due thing. Even though I reckon I ovulated around CD12.

I am beginning to feel a bit dejected, I know I haven't really been trying all that long to get pregnant really. Only since August, and that was even before I had my period. So only 2 months since I've had my period. I guess I just was spoilt with Robert, getting pregnant with him straight away I assumed I would fall quickly this time as well.

And to add insult to injury, I will be spending Christmas with Aunt Flo, assuming she gets her arse into gear and gets here. Urgh. I feel so low. :(

Friday 18 December 2009

Sooo in love

Have I mentioned lately how completely in love I am with my son? I probably don't say it enough, at least not on this blog, although I tell Robert at least once each day how much I love him. Usually more than once, although sometimes at least one of the times is when Robert is being difficult to settle to sleep so I keep repeating in a calm soothing voice "Mummy and Daddy love you very much, we'll be here when you wake up in the morning, now it's time to go to sleep." :) But even if he's not being difficult to settle I make sure it's the last thing he hears at night before he goes to sleep.

He is developing so fast, I am amazed by him every day. He still says nothing that sounds like words, although he will yell "mamamamama!" when he is angry, or tired. And when he is excited he likes to say "Cacacacaca!" but he is now beginning to string different sounds together to make word-like sounds. He doesn't sign to me yet :( We keep doing the sign for milk, drink, eat, but he does not do them to us when he wants one of those things. If he wants milk he usually comes up to me, wailing in a moany way at the top of his voice, and tugs on my top, or tries to lift it up.

But his understanding for things has come on so much! And one of my absolute FAVOURITES is that he understands "Can you give Mummy a kiss?" :D Although he doesn't always feel like giving us kisses. And what is lovely is that in the morning when he gets up, he has some morning time milky, and after he is done, he will clamber over us, and give each of us a big kiss. :)

Sometimes I wonder how I will love another baby as much as I love him. But I know I will, simply from other people expressing the same concerns and then saying afterwards that they do. But right now it just seems odd that there will one day be another little baby in my life that I love just as much as Robert.

Another thing I love about my baby boy is how he seems to subconciously pick up on things without even realising. He loves his cars (what boy doesn't, I guess???!!) and whenever he gets one, he immediately starts pushing it along the floor/sofa/someone's leg and making this super cute "mmmmrrrrrrrrrrrrrmmmmmmmmm" noises! But what is really funny is that he does this for anything he starts pushing along. For example, he was eating breakfast one morning, and after a while lost interest in eating it, so he got his toast soldier, started pushing it around his tray with his finger, and made the "mmmrrrrrrrmmmmmmm" noise like it was a car! Sooo cute.

And what is even cuter is how he looks when he's doing it, so funny :)







He is such a cutie, I know I'm biassed, but if you saw this every day.. wouldn't you fall in love with him as well?



One last thing to leave you with, is this photo. One of Jonathan's colleagues did this with their child, and it was quite a cool idea so we're going to do it too. Each year, take a picture of the child with the previous year's photo!



Today we went out in the snow, and hopefully I have some nice photos from it, although he wasn't too keen on it as the first thing he did was fall face first into the snow! But he soon cheered up after a cuddle, and especially liked it when the cat came out as well!

Thursday 10 December 2009

10 days til testing...

And I'm going nuts! I keep trying to forget about it but I can't. We are still doing it every other day... But I can't shake the thought that I ovulated back on day 12, and it's now day 23. I am managing to hold off of testing, it's just the shaking it from my mind I can't do. I really need to forget about it!! I am convincing myself that I'm pregnant which I really shouldn't! The last time I really convinced myself I was pregnant it delayed my period by 2 weeks. I'll keep you updated anyway.

Sunday 6 December 2009

Robert has been off his food for the last few days. He's barely eating at all, but still enjoys his mummy milk. I'm not sure if I'm worrying too much, but I'm thinking it could be one of two reasons, first being that he is ill, or perhaps teething, and as soon as he's better he'll be eating with a vengeance again, or the second I am thinking is that he might be going through a fussy eating stage, in which case I would want to try and nip it in the bud as soon as possible!

I'm leaning more to the thinking that he's not well, as his nappies have been DISGUSTING for the last few days, including several "leakers"... Plus the fact that he's been sick a couple of times. He threw up yesterday morning sitting at the highchair. He had a small amount of toast, but drank TONNES of water, so it was mainly watery sick (sorry for the TMI lol!). Then tonight as I was changing him ready for bed he farted, and started wretching, and a very small (thank goodness) amount came up.

I am wondering if I should get a doctor's appointment tomorrow to get him looked at. I took his temp while he was nursing to sleep (but it wasn't skin contact, just under his arm through clothing) and it came up 35.7 degrees celsius.

Apart from that he's mostly happy, but it's just alarming seeing Robert refusing most food, especially his favourites! Today for example he had about 4 shredded wheat (bitesized) when he usually has a whole bowlful - toddler bowl. Then for lunch I made him a sandwich (2 slices of bread with a slice of turkey) I cut it into quarters, gave him one bit, which he pulled apart, ate most of the side with turkey on and wouldn't eat any more! He did have a few bits of satsuma and apple as well, but he usually eats between half and 3/4 of the sandwich I make him. Then for tea we went out to a restaurant, we took along some breadsticks and a banana, and also gave him bits of our food. He ate a stick of pepper and chewed on a bit of chicken, ate a tortilla chip, and then lost interest. So we then offered him banana, which he held, put it to his mouth, then threw it off the highchair, offered him another bit just to make sure which also ended up on the floor. So yeah he ate a good deal less than he usually does.

But he is nursing so that's not too bad. The only thing is that now Robert is older and more mobile, I'm less comfortable in nursing him in public than I was when he was younger, so if we are out for a few hours, I don't nurse him even if he looks like he wants it (which makes me feel guilty especially these last few days), instead I try and satiate him with nibbles and water, and wait til we get home. He does prefer to nurse standing up, unless it's before a nap or bedtime, when I feed him in bed and he'll snuggle up to me that way, but he doesn't like nursing in the cradle position if I'm sitting.

Anyway onto TTC news. This cycle has been very strange. Last week I thought I was ovulating because I started getting spotting which lasted a couple of days, then I thought I felt twinges down there on one side, plus I had EWCM. So I made sure I had lots of baby-making over those few days. But to make sure I do the best I can in the baby making department I will continue to baby-make every 2 days until I am either on my period again or I test positive! This is what we did the cycle Robert was conceived in the first full month we were trying, so hopefully it will work this time too!

I have been feeling odd feelings lately, twinges, and other things which are making me think "maybe this is the month" but I am going to try and exercise some self-control and not test prematurely. I think I shall see how I feel 2 weeks from today. My last cycle lasted 33 days, and it is now CD 19 so 2 weeks til CD 33 when my period would be due if I am regular. So 2 weeks from now is the EARLIEST I will test. If I can hang on later I will. The last two months I have tested at very odd times in relation to my period end/start time, because I have made myself think that maybe my period was implantation bleeding!! So this month I will not test early at all, I will assume my last period was infact a period ;)

I hope in two weeks I will be updating with happy news just in time for Christmas - if not I shall enjoy a nice glass of wine or two! ;)

Anyway a few more photos for you to enjoy!

My grown up boy in his first buttoned-up shirt! I'm very proud of this photo, I took it and usually the portraits I do don't turn out so nicely! As Jonathan was sorting them out, I looked at this one and said to him in surprise "Is that one I took???!!!" and he looked at me and said "yes, does that surprise you because it's a good one?" lol!


Here's our completed birth to 1st birthday photo frame! It's just LOVELY having something like this to look at to show just how much our baby boy has changed over the last year!


Robert's activity table we got him for his birthday. He loves this! He even keeps trying to put other things down, like his little cars, or half eaten apples, or the shape sorter pieces lol ;)


Robert modelling a hat we got sent in the post this week from my step-mum's mum (Step-grandma?). She had made it for Ewan but had put it away and forgotten about it, then found it recently, so sent it to us :)


Robert and Daddy on the carousel in Milton Keynes Shopping Centre. He seemed to quite enjoy it this time, the first time he went on he hated it and was rather petrified of it. I did suggest that Jonathan sit Robert on a horse, which I think Robert didn't like! So this time Jonathan just took him straight to a bit where you just sit down in a little carriage thing, and he was better.


Right, well I'll sign off here! Hope you had a great weekend!

Thursday 3 December 2009

More ramblings.

I think I've ovulated already. But I am going to try and remain on schedule with the baby-making incase I was wrong. Jonathan doesn't mind at all!

I keep thinking that I feel pregnant. I woke up in the middle of the night with a very bad stomach ache, almost an "I'm going to be sick" feeling but not quite. Although it may well have been because of the stupid amounts of biscuits and chocolate I ate yesterday. Either way my instinct would be to test but I am not going to test. In fact I'm just going to carry on with the baby-making this month until I get my period or I test positive when overdue ;)

If the baby we are trying to make turns out as gorgeous as the one we already have, we'll be very very lucky parents :)

Sunday 29 November 2009

More TTC thoughts, and more photos

It's amazing how much when you are TTC that you pay attention to what is going on "down there". Last month I had a 33 day cycle. Before Robert I was pretty much bang on 28 days. Anyway, so assuming 33 day cycle is regular, I should, according to the textbooks, be ovulating around cycle day 19. I am currently on cycle day 12, and today (more like late afternoon and evening) I have had two separate instances of egg-white consistency CM with a reddish tinge. Which suddenly got me thinking maybe it's ovulation... and then having thought that I have had the odd right-hand sided pains... But goodness knows if I am imagining it or not! Or if maybe the tinted CM is due to intercourse last night. I am wondering whether to go for it tonight as well or if yesterday's swimmers will be enough in case I AM ovulating? LOL.

Every cycle I keep thinking "If I do get pregnant this month, I'll be due on xyz". This month I thought it would be 30th August if I do get pregnant, but now I'm thinking if I am ovulating now it'll be more like 23rd-25th August. But I do keep getting ahead of myself! I did at one point think I'd be having a July 2nd baby, then a July 24th baby... so there's no point deliberating really, but I can't help myself lol.

But if I do get pregnant..... then when I give birth will make a lot of difference to my baby, between being the youngest in the year above at school or the oldest in the year below... And whether my babies will be 1 or 2 years apart in school.

Anyway, here's a few photos of Robert. :)

The boy LOVES his drinks... He will always guzzle a drink down like crazy, even if he's not thirsty. At which point he will suck loads into his mouth and then spit it out!!!



Having fun in a ball tent. MUST fix the inflatable one the cat burst over summer....


One of me with my cheeky chappy :)


Daddy is out of frame in this one, he's running towards Robert while Jonathan's dad is pushing Robert in his trike... Robert finds this hilarious! And you can also see Robert's 7th tooth (FINALLY!!!!) in this pic!



We took him to messy play again this week. I tend not to go much anymore simply because I get messier than he does, and then I have to try and get paint/sand/shaving foam/dried on porridge oats/whatever off him, get him dry, change him, and argh, it's such a chore!! Less so I guess than actually having to clean up the room as well as him, but still. It's easier when there's an extra pair of hands to help!

There was a table with paint squirted round in patterns for the children to mix up with their hands. Robert saw this table (he was the first to it) and went up, and delicately put a finger or two in the paint and dragged it downwards onto the clean paper. It was fascinating watching him figure out what this stuff was and what it did, and felt like.



But it wasn't long before he got properly stuck in!!




Of course if they ever put anything edible out, Robert will find it. It didn't take him long to find the bowl of porridge oats, or the tray of assorted cereal (cornflakes, shreddies, rice crispies, coco pops)...





How I love that last pic, a true "oh damn, I've been caught out!" expression!!

Here's a photo I love as well, it's of Robert playing in the sand (which he usually just tries to eat). Wonderful photo.


Anyway in other news, we all went northwards this weekend to see my brother, sister-in-law and nephew. It was Ewan's 2nd birthday yesterday, and he has certainly developed into his own little character, one that definitely does NOT like Robert sharing his toys lol! Which fair enough I could understand, he is only two years old. But what did make me quite sad was that Ewan spent pretty much the entire time pushing Robert down. :( He did it over and over and over again. Although he did give Robert some cuddles and kisses too, it was still quite upsetting to see Ewan objecting to Robert's presence like that. I hope that it's just a one off but I guess time will tell. Apart from that it was a lovely weekend, and there were times when Ewan didn't seem to mind Robert being there. Robert spent the entire weekend being interested in what Ewan was doing, eating (of course!) and trying to stroke and pull their cat's fur. Their cat, Kevin is extremely placid, and will actually let Robert near him which is a new experience! For the most part Robert was actually getting better, it's such a shame Hazel doesn't let him near her, as it wouldn't take long for him to understand being gentle with her if she did!

I don't have photos yet but will do hopefully by tomorrow.

Anyway, it's time for bed, I hope I've not bored you too much and that the photos broke up the huge walls of text ;)

Keep your fingers crossed for me that I am ovulating, I might jump on Jonathan later just to make sure there's plenty of swimmers there incase I am ;)

Wednesday 25 November 2009

My baby is ONE!!!

Oh my goodness, I can't believe this time last year I was in hospital with my baby boy still in SCBU! My baby boy turned one year old on Monday (23rd November), and I can't believe how quick it's gone, and also how much he's grown and developed into his own little person!

My baby boy has gone from this...



to this!



He is a cheeky, gorgeous, and wonderful little boy I can't believe I get to call mine! And I can't imagine him not being mine now, either. I'm so glad he's in my life. I don't know what I would do if I had to go to work and leave my baby most of the day even a few days a week!

We had his birthday party on Sunday, and he had so much fun! I'm so pleased that so many people could come, and it was wonderful for me to see just how much he is loved and how much people care about him!

Here were some of the decorations :)







He enjoyed playing with Bethany as usual. At one point I saw him walking after her, she was crawling, sucking on her dummy, he spotted it and kept bending down to get it out of her mouth, only to have her crawling along again! So he kept stooping down, then having to get up and chase her again! Bethany's parents, Paul and Vikki, gave Robert some balloons with little lights in so they glowed, which Robert loved, and still does! He spent ages at the party grasping both balloons by the knot, and walking around with them! He seems to like the knots on balloons, sometimes sucking on them, I guess they must remind him of something... ;) In fact we had to take the balloons off him so we could get started on his presents! He seemed intent on clutching hold of them the whole time!





He had so many cards and presents, he is such a lucky boy :) He did get a bit fidgetty for his card and present opening, it took quite a while and in the end I did have to rush through them a bit!















The emotional bit for me was of course the cake, I sat with Robert on my lap and Jonathan brought in the cake, and I was unable to sing happy birthday to him, because I was on the verge of tears! The cake itself turned out better than I thought it might in the end! It was quite painstaking to get the icing on the 1 as it was runny icing that hardened in the fridge, and I didn't want the blue of the 1 to mix with the white on the base.











I got lots of lovely comments about the cake, and I think a few people wanted the recipe :) It was delicious, and it's the sort of cake where you just wanna make another one to scoff by yourself, it's so moreish! Robert enjoyed the cake too, infact, he ate all of Barbara's cake (I thought Barbara was helping him eat his own cake, but no, it was hers!!!)













Hehehe!

He had such a good time, walking around, stealing food off of people's plates!

On Monday, his actual birthday, we went down to the embankment and fed the swans and ducks (and seagulls) with the leftover sandwiches, as they had gone a bit crusty and hard having been out all day!

We took him in his new trike, although he seems to enjoy pushing it than being pushed in it ;)















I was absolutely knackered from all the preparation, and then the party itself!

My period was in full swing by the time we were sorting everything out the day before, and while I was shopping for the party with my father-in-law, it was at that horrid icky stage where it just ACHED so painfully down below, I would have normally been curled up in bed with a book and a hot water bottle instead of trudging around tesco!!!

I am a little sad that I was not pregnant by the time Robert was 1, although I guess whatever age Robert will be when he does finally get a little brother or sister will be a good one, I shall just have to wait and see what happens! I hope it's soon though, I'd rather keep their birthdays apart by at least a few weeks, so I hope I get pregnant this cycle or next! Jonathan and I were a little lazy last month, I guess we could have tried harder, so maybe this month if we're not so lazy we will be lucky. Or maybe that weirdness with my spotting etc was due to an early miscarriage?? No way to know of course, I never got a positive result back!

I hope you're all well anyway! Robert's had a chest infection, and other colds etc. He's had a runny nose for about a month now, to varying degrees, then his chest infection in the middle of it!

Thanks for reading! :)